In most population there is a deeply seated fear that prevents us from taking operate of our lives and shaping them to suit us. It is a fear that keeps us average, keeps us doing all the same things everyone else is doing, plainly because it is the familiar thing to do.
The fear of the unknown.
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You probably know that exact feeling I'm talking about. That flap in your stomach, that vague hurt when you get close to the edge of familiarity, that warning in your head that can be so really misinterpreted as a valid red flag. You know what I mean.
There are parts of our minds and natures that have a singular purpose: To keep us safe. These parts are trained throughout our lives to sight in the middle of what is okay, and what is dangerous. When you accidentally touched the hot stove burner or iron as a child, that protection center learned from that. When you strayed too far from your parents and they called you back with that tone of worry and fear in their voices, that protection center in your head heard it and learned. Unfortunately, most people's protection centers have gone a microscopic too far in their learning. The lesson you probably internalized was "if it is unfamiliar, it could be dangerous. Only trust the things you know."
The effect of this, is that when you get too close to the edge of what's familiar, your brain sends off all the same warning signals and red flags that it would if you absentmindedly got too close to the hot stove. It's there to protect you, but it also is retention you fenced into a safe microscopic circle away from chance and growth.
What can you do about this?
Some population can break through this fence, ignore the warning signals, and seek new opportunities. There is a rush linked with this behavior that beats any drug. It's really that feeling of danger that provides the rush. Unfortunately, most of us can't bring ourselves to fling ourselves headlong through the fence (or at least not very often), so is there an alternative for the rest of us chickens out here who are not happy in the fence, but not impulsive enough to throw caution to the wind?
Yes. We have to make the unfamiliar feel familiar.
That may sound strange, but it is very possible. It takes no money, no extra skills, just a few minutes each day. The only thing you need for this straightforward technique is your imagination.
Sit down somewhere quiet for a few minutes (if you have rambunctious children or a crazy schedule, you might have to do this in bed each evening or even when you have a few minutes to yourself in the bathroom). Close your eyes and think about the thing that has been scaring you. Don't worry about the fear of even reasoning about it. In the privacy of your imagination, you are totally safe. Fantasize step by step, doing the performance that has been giving you the flutters. At each step, stop and ask yourself what could go wrong at that point, how likely that really is, and what you can do to avoid the problems. What you are doing is looking around for the monsters surface the fence and looking if there really is any danger to worry about. Once that is done, you can Fantasize yourself doing the steps to your goal, visualizing in vivid detail each bit as if you were really doing it.
The results of this technique is that you can do something over and over again as many times as you need to until it becomes so familiar that there is no fear involved. What you are doing is essentially extending the fence to consist of wherever you want to go. This is something you can do again and again, making the fence bigger and bigger to consist of anyplace you wish. The biggest benefit is that rather than throwing yourself headlong through the fence and then maybe discovering all those qoute and "monsters" that you mind had been warning you were there, once you have already committed yourself, instead you get to scope out the terrain bit by bit, and by the time you meet an obstacle, you commonly saw it advent and already know what to do about it.
There are some population out there who have no fear of the unknown, and who can plainly rule logically what they want to do and do it (I know, my mother is one of those people), but for the rest of us, this microscopic technique can take the fear and trepidation out of the unfamiliar. Give it a try, I'll think you will like the results.
Fear Of The Unknown And How You Can Defeat It